Starting secondary school marks a major milestone in a child’s life – and it’s a big moment for families too. New subjects, fresh routines, unfamiliar faces… it’s exciting, yes, but also a little daunting. To help smooth the transition and ease those first day jitters, here are some tips for both children and their families.
Tips for children
- Embrace the change
Secondary school means more independence, more subjects, and more responsibility. Keep an open mind and view it as an adventure – you’re about to discover new interests and talents! - Get organised early
Use a planner or homework diary to keep track of assignments, PE kits and after-school clubs. Knowing what’s coming up in advance will help you feel confident and in control. - Ask questions
Don’t be afraid to speak up if you’re unsure about something. Teachers, older students, and staff are there to help you, plus you’re not expected to know everything on day one. - Make friends
You don’t need to find your “best friend forever” straight away. A smile, a hello and a bit of shared laughter go a long way. Be kind, be yourself and friendships will form. All the other students will be in the same situation as you and will always welcome your kindness! - Take care of yourself
Get enough sleep, eat a good breakfast and talk to someone if you’re feeling worried. Starting something new is always a little scary but you’ve got this.
Tips for families
- Keep communication open
Regular chats about how school is going, even just five minutes over dinner, can reveal loads. Show interest without grilling and be ready to listen without rushing in with advice. - Help build routines
A consistent morning and bedtime routine gives structure and sets the tone for the day. Encourage packing bags the night before and setting out uniforms to ease stress. - Be supportive, not overbearing
It’s tempting to hover, but secondary school is about growing independence. Let them handle challenges; while knowing you’re always nearby with a safety net. - Know the school
Attend parent evenings, follow the school newsletter and get to know key teachers. When you understand how the school operates, you can help your child navigate it better. - Celebrate progress
Starting secondary school is a huge leap. Acknowledge efforts, praise resilience, and celebrate the small wins like remembering a timetable or trying a new subject will help your child build confidence.
Final thought
Starting secondary school is a journey, one with twists, turns, triumphs, and stumbles. With support and patience, it can be a wonderful chapter for families to grow together.
So, take a deep breath, give a reassuring smile, and get ready for lift-off into this exciting new phase.
Author: Jodi Walden
